We promised to stay together for better or worse. Certainly last night was one of the ‘worse’ points in our life together thus far. Issues related to refocusing my future with regards to finding permanent employment make things difficult as I wonder when I will find something with more stability. Add to that the challenges of maintaining a relationship from across the ocean and we have a recipe for extreme hardship.
As difficult as things can get at times, we need to remember the ultimate goal of our promise to each other and to ourselves. The promise that this time we would do whatever it takes to make this relationship work. We all have pasts to look back upon from which we can learn and apply to our current situations. Distance has a way of making us believe we can simply give up when things get too difficult. We make excuses instead of taking time to come up with solutions.
Changing the way we think about something can make all the difference in the world. Our thoughts today turned from reasons of why we cannot make our meeting each other happen sooner rather than later to all of the reasons we should choose a less than perfect solution. No, we will not be able to get away for a week to some country B&B but we will have over a week of breakfasts, nights, and evening walks together which is far more than we have now.
We come to learn at some point we need to take what we can get and make the most of it. Life is not perfect and our trying to make a life fit into a perfect mold will cause us heartache and hardships in the future as we realise things are not as we would like them to be. We need to learn to cherish the moment and find happiness in the everyday little things we often take for granted.
For better or worse are words we utter during the wedding ceremony but often fail to uphold as years pass us by. We become indifferent, skeptical, and then start to take little things for granted until one day those words we spoke are but a distant memory. A strong and true love with a steady focus on a future together can endure the most difficult of times regardless of distance as love knows no boundaries.